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Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Friendship

風吹雨成花 時間追不上白馬 你年少掌心的夢話 依然緊握著嗎
雲翻湧成夏 眼淚被歲月蒸發 這條路上的你我她 有誰迷路了嗎
我們說好不分離 要一直一直在一起 就算與時間為敵 就算與全世界背離
風吹亮雪花 吹白我們的頭髮 當初說一起闖天下 你們還記得嗎

那一年盛夏 心願許的無限大 我們手拉手也成舟 劃過悲傷河流
你曾說過不分離 要一直一直在一起 現在我想問問你 是否只是童言無忌

天真歲月不忍欺 青春荒唐我不負你 
大雪求你別抹去 我們在一起的痕跡 大雪也無法抹去 我們給彼此的印記

今夕何夕 青草離離 明月夜送君千里 等來年 秋風起



Saw this article some time back and thought I'd like to share!

The article mentioned 5 type of friends.

1) Friends who make the effort.
I realize that among all my friends, there are some who would ask me out from time to time to catch up, etc. And then, there are also some that I would always be the one to ask. Sometimes, it just gets annoying when you are always the one asking, and after some time, you just can't be bothered anymore.

2) Friends who are genuinely happy for me when something good happens.
I know a few like that and I really cherish them :)

3) Friends who are upbeat.
I didn't quite agree with the author over this point. I feel that friendship is a two-way street and I don't believe in choosing "Happy friends" over "Unhappy friends". Quoting a comment on that article, "By rejecting a friend during a time of crisis or depression in their lives, you don't live up to your own definition of a friend. A friend should be there for you, in good times and bad times. Some times the bad times can go on for a long time. It's cruel to abandon a friend during these crises." People say they refuse to be with negative people because it brings negativity to their own lives. I feel that is being very selfish.

4) Friends who are up for anything.
I love friends who are like "OK LETS GO!" whenever any one of us suggests anything. People who I can count on to not back out last minute over stupid reasons like "tired", "moody", or "lazy".

5) Friends who are authentic (and supportive).
Quoting the article, "A true friend will tell you the truth -- and will let you know they'll always be on your side no matter what decision you make even if, in their opinion, it's the wrong one." Yes, I always think that a best friend should be supportive, no matter what it is. I always see quotes on how true friends are determined by how direct (and hurtful) they are, but I think it should be determined by how direct (and supportive) instead. Also, I do not think that being direct but rude and hurtful is anything a best friend should be.

Here are two more points that I want to add to the list.

6) Friends who make sure no one is left out.
Friends who make sure everyone in the group is equal and taken care of, and not leaving anyone out of any decision process. Friends who are easy going. For example, if something is dearly important to one of them, everyone else go out of their way to make sure it happens.

7) Friends who are Non-judgmental, Accepting, and Forgiving.
Calculative and petty friends are a huge headache and you'd always need to tiptoe carefully around them in case you step on their tails. That's why I always feel grateful when friends accept me the way I am together with my flaws and not pick over little things I might have done or said wrongly. Friends should know each other well enough to know that no one is being intentionally bad and have a bigger heart to not judge.

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