Tuesday, December 10, 2013

“Don't stop chasing”

"I think that one of the biggest reason why relationships do not work out in the long run is because at one point, one side (or both) stops trying. Before one claims another person as their significant other, they would do anything to make that person happy. They would chase, they would flirt, they would be charming. They would send daily morning and goodnight texts every time you wake up or go to sleep. They would write corny messages and pick up lines just to make sure that there is a smile upon your face. But once they claim you as theirs, all of those things eventually stop. The 5 page texts slowly turn into 1. The constant calls turn into not calling at all. And the lovely endearments turn into daily arguments. In order for a relationship to work, don’t ever stop chasing. Just because the person you want is now consider “yours”, it does not mean they deserve anything less than the time when you’re trying to win them over."

I read this somewhere and I think it's a great reminder for any couple that when one stops trying/caring/cherishing, soon the other stops too. This is detrimental to any relationship, no matter whether it's intentional or not. I know I've stopped, because for a long time, I knew he stopped. He knows what is missing, but does nothing.

Sometimes I'm happy, sometimes I'm not. We get along, but there's no spark. What's the meaning in a relationship where we are more like close friends than lovers?

Perhaps we two look at love differently.

Or I'm just not "the one".

I blogged about this issue previously:
http://www.estherxie.com/2013/03/when-theres-no-way-out-love-is-only-way.html

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